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It no longer fits, because you have outgrown it…



I struggled to write this post today, because I am known for severely hanging on to things that have long since reached their date of expiration. This includes everything, clothes, shoes, hair, (yes I have several bags of old used weave lol) relationships, and most recently, friendships.

Recently, I came to the conclusion that I had to release a friendship that no longer served a purpose in my life. It wasn’t as hard as I imagined, but I attributed that to the anger that I felt towards the situation. Once I allowed myself to be upset, I decided I din’t want anyone in my life that could upset me like that. 

Sometimes, in order to have a good friend, you have to be a good friend. I did not feel this person was a good friend to me. I attributed that to the years of constantly dealing with or putting up with, a certain behavior from a person. With the dismissive notion of “that’s just who they are” or even with hopes that in time with age and maturity, they’d change. Unfortunately or fortunately in my case, they did not.  

I think I could have went a few more years of looking the other way towards their immature actions, or continuing the silent treatment when they said or did something to offend me. 

But who wants to live a life like that? To thine oneself be true. I can’t fake the funk anymore. I can’t continue to be friends with someone who has proven time and time again they didn’t value my friendship.  

As I’m learning and growing into a woman, my life, my priorities, my feelings, my thoughts, everything about me, grows and progresses with me. I can’t stay stagnant in the past or in lamens term stuck on stupid.

So I’ve outgrown this friendship…and I’m okay with that.



2 thoughts on “It no longer fits, because you have outgrown it…

  1. Hi sweetheart, I am a 51 year old mother of 3 adults and I have 5 grand kids . I live in Shreveport Louisiana. I was actually looking up Tamar Braxton and your face and name seem to jump out at me. First I’d like to say that you are so beautiful and that I instantly admire and respect you from your post. Two weeks after my youngest granddaughter Malaya who is now 4 was born I started calling her my Hershey kisses. I was present at her birth, but soon after had to travel back home for work. I didn’t see her again until 2 weeks later. When I look at how much her complexion had changed I ask my daughter if she had chocolate milk coming out her breast. Lol! I looked at your picture and knew that my beautiful girl will look a lot like you when she’s a young lady. Continue to inspire and be a blessing to those who follow you. I pray God’s blessings over your life and that you would increase in Wisdom.

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